Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy
***Top 1.5% Global Podcast*** Dear Betrayed, Are you in shock? Confused, devastated, hurt, angry and feeling like you are not enough? Do you feel like it must be your fault, like you should have somehow seen the signs? Are you grieving the death of the marriage you thought you had? Dear Betrayer, Have you been believing the lie that if people knew what was really in your heart and mind, they would turn their back on you? Have you been convinced that your wife and family would leave you and you would lose everything if/when you came clean? Beloved, do you both feel like your marriage is over? Well, you’re right. That marriage full of secrets and lies IS over. But now there is hope for an honest and transparent marriage - one full of trust, safety, connection, forgiveness, acceptance, and intimacy that you’ve never known before. Bold statement, right? You may be thinking, “No way!” That’s okay. We understand… Hi, we are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and we have been where you are... As a result of adultery fueled by pornography, the marriage vows we had exchanged as starry-eyed newlyweds and had worked so hard to keep were eventually shattered. We’ve been through hell and back. But we are here, together, to let you know that this devastation we experienced was actually a gift. Of course, we didn’t see it that way at first and you probably don’t either. But, through a commitment to recovery, our faith in God, and our hope for redemption, we set out on a journey of healing, and we can’t wait to share what we’ve learned with you. We now have a marriage that continually blows our minds, and we give God all the glory! So, if you’re ready to move from heartbreak and pain to hope and healing, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and join us on a journey of faith as we talk through difficult questions like; Is there hope for our marriage? Can I fix all the damage I’ve done? Can I ever trust again? Is true intimacy even possible? We will also do deep dives into the topics of: * Isolation * Guilt and Shame * Anger * Rejection * Addiction * Trauma * Body Image * Triggers * Communication * And more… Our story, like yours, is a messy one. But, with God’s help, it is possible to recover what was lost, stolen, or given away. We know this because God has turned the ashes of our lives into something beautiful and we believe he can do that for you too. You can connect with us at: support@beyondbrokenvows.com https://insider.beyondbrokenvows.com/ https://coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com/ We would love to be part of your journey to healing and wholeness!
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On today’s episode, we delve into the topic of euphoric recall, a painful yet critical aspect of sexual addiction recovery.
Emily shares her perspective as a betrayed wife, highlighting the emotional turmoil that accompanies these intrusive memories.
Meanwhile, Johnny explains his own experiences with euphoric recall and outlines a robust four-step battle plan to confront and dissolve these recollections.
It’s not a pleasant part of the journey to healing, but one necessary to face head-on with your spouse and a community of support.
We hope it blesses you!
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 97. "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful?
Episode 98. Navigating Porn Withdrawal and the Path of Least Resistance
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Monday Mar 24, 2025
Monday Mar 24, 2025
Today we’re tackling an incredibly important topic: porn withdrawal and its impact on those bravely striving to break free from porn addiction.
We chat about both the mental and physical symptoms that can pop up during this journey, along with the challenges people often face when trying to leave behind the familiar paths of addiction.
We’ll share some practical steps to help you overcome these hurdles with confidence. We’ll also shine a light on the role of the amygdala in addiction, reminding us of the importance of seeking help and connecting with others instead of facing this journey alone.
Finding your personal ‘why’ for recovery is key, and we’re here to support you every step of the way! Let’s dive in together and make this journey a little easier and a lot more hopeful!
Johnny and Emily
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Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity
Episode 56. Identifying Sex Addiction: Take the First Step Today
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Monday Mar 17, 2025
Monday Mar 17, 2025
What is addiction?
How does it work?
Is it just about deciding to stop destructive behaviors?
Addiction can be a mystery for many couples. Husbands may wonder if they are addicts after betraying their spouse. Wives often struggle to understand how their partner could engage in such hurtful actions for so long.
When our marriage faced sexual betrayal six years ago, we were just as confused about sexual addiction as many of you. Since then, we've learned a lot and want to share key insights about addiction.
We will explore the complexities of sex addiction. We'll discuss how addiction affects not only the addict but also their loved ones, especially spouses.
We’ll cover the addiction cycle and its pain, using the concept of 'The Bubble' to explain the addict's inner world.
This episode is a chance to learn and and also foster conversations that lead to deeper intimacy.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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Out of the Shadows, by Patrick Carnes
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 17. Is My Spouse A Porn Addict? 13 Clues To Help Expose Compulsive Sexual Behavior
Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull
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Monday Mar 10, 2025
Monday Mar 10, 2025
When it comes to confronting the aftermath of sexual betrayal, each of us will set out on a unique journey to healing and restoration.
This was certainly true of our guest April Truitt. April shares the deeply personal and transformative story of her marriage's journey through infidelity. After discovering her husband's affair, April recounts the emotional devastation and the path to recovery that followed. She discusses the underlying issues in their marriage, their struggles with insecurity, and how her husband's affair led to a profound period of self-examination and spiritual growth.
With time and guidance from their church and counselor, this precious couple was able to confront their emotional intimacy issues, work through forgiveness, and rebuild their marriage stronger than before.
April also highlights her own battles with shame, negative self-talk, and the transformative power of relying on God's grace. Now, as an author and speaker, she aims to help others facing similar struggles, offering her book, 'A Wife's Recovery from an Affair: The Story of a Faithful God,' and a free journaling workbook on her website.
Join us today as we hear from April about what God was teaching her through her personal recovery journey.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 04. Sharing Our Story: From Infidelity and Addiction to Reconciliation and Recovery
Episode 58. Purpose from Pain. Did Sexual Betrayal Destroy God’s Plan for Your Marriage?
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Monday Mar 03, 2025
Monday Mar 03, 2025
After sexual betrayal is discovered in a marriage and the couple decides to embark on the journey to recovery, there are many opportunities for social events to become emotionally challenging, causing what many call triggers.
Today we recount a fun, awkward, semi-harrowing story of our weekend adventure at a pirate-themed wedding; fraught with danger, and also some victories.
Listen in to hear which tools in our relational toolbox were the keys to turning a difficult social situation into a bonding experience. Hint, it may have something to do with the importance of preparation and vigilance.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 13. His Triggers, Her Triggers – 4 Steps For Dealing With Triggers While Healing From Infidelity
Episode 77. 4 Practical Steps for Vigilance in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity
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Monday Feb 24, 2025
Monday Feb 24, 2025
You may be wondering if sex will ever be fulfilling and satisfying for you or your spouse now that the reality of sexual betrayal has invaded your marriage.
If you are at the very beginning of the discovery and disclosure of infidelity through pornography or other sexual expressions outside of your marriage, you might be wondering if you’ll ever have sex again, or if you’ll even want to have sex with your spouse again.
It’s a very tender topic and we know that every couple will have a different path to take on their road to recovery in the area of sexual intimacy.
Today, we are going to let you peek into our journey back to being sexual again with its ups and downs, ebbs and flows, and give you hope for what God can do with those willing to take that journey with him.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 23. 7 Steps to True Intimacy After Sexual Betrayal
Sexual Intimacy Series:
Episode 45. Intimacy with a Sex-Addict in Marriage (1 of 3)
Episode 46. Sexuality as a Sex-Addict in Marriage (2 of 3)
Episode 47. Sexual Intimacy with a Recovering Sex Addict in Marriage (3 of 3)
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Monday Feb 17, 2025
Monday Feb 17, 2025
Connection...
When you think about connecting with others, what comes to mind?
What does it truly mean to be connected, and what are healthy connections? And speaking of healthy connections, it makes you wonder—are there unhealthy connections?
What do your connections look like in your life?
Join us today as we dive into these intriguing questions and explore the meaning of connections together!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 57. Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It
Episode 53. 4 Ways To Help a Friend Experiencing Sexual Betrayal
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Monday Feb 10, 2025
Monday Feb 10, 2025
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you realized that making a significant personal sacrifice was the key to resolving a difficult situation?
And that this decision would alter your life as you know it?
Often, these moments involve putting the needs of someone else first. It’s those we love most with whom we often decide to "die to self."
We’d love for you to join us today as Johnny shares four pivotal moments from his recovery journey where he chose to put Emily ahead of himself in their marriage. We can’t wait for you to hear his inspiring story!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal
Episode 60. The High Cost of Freedom in a Sexually Betrayed Marriage
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Monday Feb 03, 2025
Monday Feb 03, 2025
Okay, picture this scene: you are on vacation at the beach, having a great time soaking in the sun and playing in the ocean. You're making your way further and further out into deeper water. The waves are getting steadily higher but it’s still manageable as your feet are connected to the sandy ocean floor.
Suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, a very large and powerful wave comes crashing over your head. You are overwhelmed - taken off your feet, tossed about, and feeling like you might drown.
Similar scenes play out from time to time in our recovery journeys from sexual betrayal and addiction. This is certainly true for us.
Join us as we share about the “wave” that overwhelmed us this week. Our desire as we share our story is that you will know that you are not alone and there is hope.
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 12. His Adultery Shattered My Reality. How Do I Know What’s Real?
Episode 86. Recovering From Porn-Fueled Infidelity: Obstacles We Encountered This Year
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Monday Jan 27, 2025
Monday Jan 27, 2025
Today we’ll be sharing a fantastic interview with Sathiya Sam, host of the Man Within podcast and the founder of Deep Clean.
Sathiya opens up about his personal journey, including how he overcame a 15-year struggle with porn addiction, and the faith and guidance that played a key role in his recovery.
He dives into some eye-opening differences between just being sober and truly experiencing freedom from addiction, all while highlighting the importance of addressing root issues. Plus, Sathiya shares how he has integrated healthy sexuality into his marriage and how he safeguards that bond through openness and accountability.
The conversation is packed with practical tips on building resilience and achieving lasting freedom from porn addiction. We can't wait for you to tune in!
We pray this blesses you,
Johnny and Emily
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CONNECT WITH SATHIYA SAM:
Website: https://www.sathiyasam.com/
The Last Relapse book: https://www.sathiyasam.com/books
Man Within Podcast: https://www.sathiyasam.com/podcast
Instagram: www.instagram.com/sathiyamesam
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RELATED EPISODES:
Episode 16. It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal? And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography
Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull
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Beyond Broken Vows
Hello Beloved,
You may have been betrayed by your spouse or you may be the one who has betrayed your spouse through pornography use or even extra-marital relationships.
God loves you both!
We are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and we have been on the painful road of sexual betrayal and addiction, but our marriage has been redeemed by the miraculous power of Jesus Christ.
Our story, like yours, is a messy one. But with God's help, it is possible to recover what was lost, stolen, or given away. We know this because God has turned the ashes of our lives into something beautiful and we believe he can do that for you too.
So, if you are ready to move from heartbreak and pain to hope and healing, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and get ready to be encouraged!